The Forgotten Grief: Resources In the past 25 years there has been such a proliferation of to cover them all. As this page develops, though, we will include resources for the parent, medical staff and helping profession. Please look for this page shortly. CURRENT RESOURCES A PPT Story for Children: My Father's Bigger than Yours MY FATHER's BIGGER THAN YOURS A small inspirational story in slide format for children and their families. Tells the story of a little boy who needs to be reminded to be kind and understanding, and how in childlike terms he returns the lesson when his baby sister dies at birth. A book of Christian understanding on the sovereignty of God. A Baby Book for very small babies Angel Baby Book When very little babies die, resources are hard to come by. Baby books for older babies often seem hurtful to the newly bereaved parent, who doesnt want to think about gifts, birthday parties or the notes she would have written. This free baby book for infants has a place for a lock of hair, a letter to God and their infants, memorabilia and family trees. Free for use. A Burial Blanket for Very Little Baby's: Instruction book Burial Blanket In speaking to a funeral home director once, he told me that mothers often have a concern about their babies even once they are interred. The mothers are not irrational,it is a heart feeling, not a cognitive issue. He advised parents to bury their babies in blankets. This carefully designed little blanket has a middle patch which one can 'unbutton' or 'un-velcro' and keep the center patch as a small memory. Since parents are often in too much pain when the death occurs, this makes an excellent project for a woman's Church or Synagogue group to 'make ahead', quietly, so that when a need occurs in the congregation, it may be presented with love as a gift. The Forgotten Grief: A Training Manual for Professionals The Forgotten Grief:Handbook This handbook, developed over 20 years ago, covers the basic topics of grief, perinatal bereavement, parental choices, and ways the medical and ministerial profession can aid the parent experiencing in-hospital loss. Written by Dr. Elizabeth Kirkley Best, and based upon many years of experience, the manual is a brief introduction to the most practical aspects of helping and information. While we will eventually have this online, until then, copies may be ordered by contacting Dr. Best at The Forgotten Grief Handling a Baby's Death in the Hospital: Advice for the Staff While it is now finally part of the milieu of comfort following a baby's death to allow parents the choice of seeing and holding and saying goodbye to their infants in the hospital, how the showing is arranged and handled can make all the difference in the world in the healing of parental grief. This small printout and section give ideas based upon years of experience from a number of health care professionals. A Brief Introduction to Grief & Bereavement Basic introductory information on the processes and descriptions of grief. Includes discussions of difficult and complex or morbid grief, and questions of what is normal in grief. In-Hospital Handling of Very Little Babies who have Died: A Guide for Medical Professionals On Stillbirth: A Bibliography On Stillbirth: A Bibliography Articles, ideas and research have proliferated over the past 30 years on how best to care for families experiencing perinatal death. This brochure includes some of the articles and resources collected over that time. An update on an article published in 1981. Songs for Memorial Services Three original songs for free use at memorial services or remembrance services for infants who have died. Recordings will be online shortly. Back to Home Contact Us &1981, 2004 Elizabeth Kirkley Best PhD Title taken from "The Forgotten Grief" published in American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 1982. Unless otherwise indicated, all resources were developed and /or authored by Elizabeth Kirkley Best, PhD; and offered as a free service to parents and professionals in hope of providing healing to hurting parents and siblings. Our only requirement, is that no major modification of materials be made without full permission of the author, and that proper referencing is included: The Forgotten Grief www.forgottengrief.com forgottengrief@gmail.com forgottengrief@gmail.com P.O. Box 36 Saint Nazianz, WI 54232 © 1981,2004: Elizabeth Kirkley Best, PhD; All Rights Reserved: Article from 1982 by the same name in American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, is copyright controlled by the Journal, but the site and the originating dissertation are held by the author. Copies of the AJO article used with permission. ekbest